Well, so far I have been able to buy new clothes, workout, and get a tan. This is all in effort to change my physical apperance to something close to idealized. While most people would say, ” That’s stupid. You should just be yourself and be happy the way you look now.” If you are one of those people… Your intelectual poverity is noted, and mocked. Seriously, I have noticed a massive peridigm shift in how people treat me. Thus, in turn it has given me more confidence; and confidence is a good thing! The fact is, that people who are more attractive looking have a better chance at success than ugly people. That’s how it is. If you don’t believe that then try it for a while. I swear you won’t go back to your old self.
Sweating the Small Stuff… July 18, 2009
- Some people say not to sweat the small things in life, but that is like saying don’t worry about those termites…what harm could a few bugs be? Pretty soon your house is falling in on itself, and your retarded ass is left wondering why?
I have learned hands on about the domino effect & how it turns small stuff into a giant cluster fuck of problems. It all began Tuesday morning. I got up and got ready for school as usual. However, upon getting out of the shower I realized that the bathroom (that i have to share with another roommate and his girlfriend) was out of toilet paper. -( just keep that in the back of your mind as I’ll get to why that is important later.) After grabbing a bite to eat I got in my car and headed to school. Upon my arrival I had 10min to get to class. But with my school doing ‘repairs’ to its grounds so they had closed off all of the usual entrances. This meant I had to go completely around the school to get to the parking lot of the building my class was held in. Now, because of the construction, there were more people parking in the already limited parking space. SO…. naturally I was unable to get a parking spot that was close to my class, I then had to turn around, and find a more distant alternative; Which I did. I arrived to my class 10min late. No big deal, just frustrating that I had to rush to get settled before the instructor started bitching about me being late. After class was over I needed to… shall we say get to a bathroom; my bathroom. I got in my car and was headed home… and suddenly remembered, ” Wait! There is no TP in my bathroom.” By the time I had gotten near home, a nasty storm had developed, and was within minutes of opening up. Target is across the street from my apartment complex, and so I headed there thinking I could run in grab some food, TP, and get out and back home before the storm opens up. Well, I was wrong! Here is where the domino effect takes off! There was a mustang in front of me which took the space that I was going to get. However, both the front spot and the rear spot was open. They decided to take the back spot and move to the front. I in turn had to go all the way around them to get back to the rear spot. As I arrive to the rear parking spot the van beside it was backing out. After the van was gone I preceded to park in the rear parking spot in front of the store. Here’s the kicker! Another black van pulled in right beside me and the girl in the passenger side immediately swings open her door before I could get out. It took this girl several minutes to get out and close the door, so that I could get out. Now, if that weren’t the worst they got inside and meet some people they knew, and decided it was best to talk where… you guessed it! Right smack dab in the middle of the entrance. I then asked politely to please move and they gave me a look like ‘go fuck yourself’ and just gave me enough room to get by. Remember that storm that was only a few minutes away? As soon as I got the last thing I needed and headed towards the cashiers, the bottom gave way! I got stuck inside Target for an entire hour & 20 minutes, with old batty women, & soccer mom yuppies with their kids. Basically, hell. I couldn’t check out and leave because when it storms here…IT STORMS!! Finally, the weather broke and I could finally get to the check out line and get out of there. But wait, you know it won’t be that simple? Sure as shit, I pick the smallest line that had the old batty yuppie from up north that loved saving every penny and wasting time as if it were her’s. It was so bad that when the cashier beside me got done she started grabbing my things and ringing them up! So I thanked her and proceeded to head to the car. As I got out there, the rain had lessened to a little more than a drizzle. Great I thought! I got to my car as fast as I could, unlocked the back door, and placed my shit in it as fast as I could. Then I took the buggy to the buggy rack that they had. As I proceeded to turn around that is when I saw the girl and her mother from before loading up their van that was right next to mine; and the same one that kept me from getting out of my car! Well, wouldn’t you know… history reapeting itself, but this time I couldn’t get in my car. I ended up waiting for like 3 minutes but I started getting really wet from the rain and just walked up and grabbed the door and pushed it aside…. this in turned caused the girl to very quickly slam the door shut along with nearly taking my hand too! Pissed off beyond reason by now I got in my car, started the engine, slammed it into reverse, and peeled out.
So… as you can see small things DO impact your life. You can’t just ignor it. If it weren’t for that mustang I would have been able to get in, get my shit, and get out before the storm opened up. I would have been in a better mood and dry. More to the point, this kind of ‘domino effect’ is the effect that ultimatly determines our day and how positive or negative it will be. It is something that you can’t know before hand or control. (Not unless you have a shit ton of money and can buy and ship everything Next day air to your place and never have to have contact with the outside world.) I say this because there is no reason other than pure bad luck that these events happened to me. I mean, I have never had this kind of problem before and I usually am in and out in a few minutes. But not this time. Why? Is it because shit just happens? Or is it something deeper? This whole thing started because my bastard ass roommate and skank bitch used the last of MY toilet paper. Everything else just fell into place against me. It is best to keep this in mind because this sort of thing can cause unwanted stress in your life; and that isn’t part of the ideal life! From now on I am going to try my best to identify the situation before a ‘domino effect’ can happen. Thus, saving me the unwanted stress in my life that brings me one step closer to achieving my ideal life!
And to the Fucking Bitch and Bitch child, where ever you are I hope you eat shit and die!
Stratigies for Success… July 18, 2009
Here is another post from lifehack.org by Craig Harper. I just wanted this for my records as a reminder. Enjoy.
1. Know what success is. If you don’t know what success is (for you), how can you possibly create it? Success is different things for different people and one person’s success (a pregnancy for example) might be another person’s catastrophe. That’s because success (or failure) is not so much about the situation, circumstance, event or outcome as it is about what that “thing” means to the person in the middle of it. In order to create success, you must first define it – and far too many people haven’t. Be very clear about what you want and don’t want for your life. Clarity produces excitement. Excitement produces momentum. Momentum produces behavioural change. Behavioural change produces different results and eventually, the internal vision becomes an external reality. Giddy-up.
2. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Some people will live a life of second-best, of compromise and of under-achievement simply because they are (1) controlled by fear (2) always looking for the magic pill or shortcut and (3) not prepared to do the tough stuff. People who always take the easy option are destined for mediocrity. At best. Constantly avoiding the discomfort means constantly avoiding the lessons and the personal growth. Pain is a great teacher. Not always what we want, but sometimes what we need.
3. Seek to be righteous, not right. The need to be “right” speaks of arrogance, insecurity, ego and stupidity. It’s also synonymous with failure. The person who constantly needs to be right will miss out on much of what life has to teach him and alienate himself from others. Arrogance repels, humility attracts.
4. Seek respect, not popularity. It’s been said that our nature is “who we are” and our reputation is who people think we are. When the two are synonymous, we’re usually on the right path.
5. Embrace mess. To embrace mess is to embrace life because life is messy, unpredictable, unfair, uncertain, lumpy and bumpy. So get used to a little chaos. Embrace it even. While others succumb to the messiness and unpredictability of the human experience, make a conscious choice to be the calm in the chaos.
6. Don’t become your parents. Or your boss. Or anyone but you. The enormity of conformity is a problem for the wanna-be success story. Sure, your parents are great and by all means respect them, love them and learn from them, but please don’t become them; that’s just plain ugly and a little bit tragic. Listen to, and learn from other people, but think, act and decide for yourself. And no, you don’t need anyone’s approval or permission; you’re big now. It’s okay.
7. Use more of what you already have. Imagine what you could achieve if you took all the knowledge, intelligence, opportunities, time, skill and talent that you currently have and absolutely milked it. What if you already have more than enough talent to become wildly successful? Well, you do. There go the excuses. And that voice that’s telling (some of) you right now that you don’t have what it takes to become successful, that’s called fear. Not logic, fear. Not reality, fear. Unless of course, you allow that to become your reality. Be mindful that the voice in your head (the very loud, annoying and persistent one) is rarely a reflection of your potential and mostly a manifestation of your insecurity. And no, you’re not alone in your self-doubt; it’s a universal condition. Many people fail, not because they don’t have what it takes, but because they don’t use what they already have. Successful people typically don’t have more innate potential, luck, time or opportunity than the next person, but they consistently find a way to use much more of what they have at their disposal. While the majority are rationalising their lack of decision making and action taking, these guys are finding a way to get the job done. The question is not “how much ability do you have, but how much will you use?”.
8. Be an innovator, not an imitator. Not too many sheep succeed. Baaah. Sometimes it’s a good idea to build your own team rather than join someone else’s. Don’t let your fear stand in the way of your potential to create, innovate or lead. When I set up Australia’s first commercial personal training centre, most people told me it wouldn’t work. Glad I didn’t listen.
9. Do what most won’t. If you want to achieve what most people won’t (happiness, joy, calm, wealth, optimal health, balance) then don’t do what they do. If you want to be like the majority, then do what they do. Producing different results comes from doing different things. Simple really. And effective. Most people won’t persevere, won’t finish what they start, won’t find the good, won’t do what it takes, won’t question their long-held beliefs, won’t be solution-focused, won’t do what scares them and won’t “be the change” they want to see in their world. Choose to be different.
10. Be like water. Powerful. Gentle. Adaptable. Ever-changing. Being static in a dynamic world – like the one you and I inhabit – is a recipe for disaster. If you can’t adapt, you can’t succeed. Our practical, three dimensional reality, and everything in it, is in a constant state of transition, while some of us are in a constant state of “same”. Statues don’t succeed, they just get crapped on.
Watch out for the pigeons.
